Self-Care : A New Music Playlist
Odette
Hey you!!! Are you ready to create a new music playlist, all about self-care and what it consists of? If you have been following me in the Garden of Music, you would have noticed that we have already “Faced the music,” “Listened to the music” and now we are about to “change the playlist.” As said before this won’t be a typical blog post theme. It will be different, raw, emotional and unusual to an extent. Bare with me now things may get a little heated.
Self-care just like self-love is essential for oneself; because it’s YOU learning to appreciate, love and care for yourself. To me, self-care has more to do with your mental health and the entire 360 degrees of YOU. Notice my emphasis on the “YOU.” Self – care isn’t about luxury but, a mean to survive for yourself. When I say luxury, I mean using the “plastic card” and spending it on hair, nails, clothes, etc. even though I am guilty of this sometimes… don’t judge me. Self-care has a lot to do with your entire well-being; how YOU look after yourself and putting yourself first before anything. It can come off as selfish but if you don’t understand don’t worry I will explain in a bit. Self-care is something you have to learn to do for yourself because, without it, I think many of us would be mentally unstable or always in what they like to call “funk.” With all that being said… it is time to walk in the music garden, this time we are going to create a new music playlist about self-care; this time we are viewing the difference between self-care and self-love, the meaning of self-care and much more!!!! Who is ready?? I know I am.
Musical Garden Fine Art Print - Kathern Welsh
Self-care. Say it with me people and shout it: SELF-CARE!Yes, yes yes. Don’t you just love that phrase? Doesn’t that sound like an ear orgasm? What do you think self-care means?*as I wait for answers * don’t be shy all responses welcomed. Now that you all have answered the question… I will tell you what I believe self-care is. “Self- care is self-compassion. It is focusing on yourself in a non-narcissistic way. Paying close attention to yourself and putting your needs and self before others. It's knowing who you are as an individual; this includes the ins and outs of you and your limits. Self-care is getting enough sleep every day or almost every day (I wish I could get 8+ full hours)and eating well or what we like to say “healthy.” ”Yes, I know this is an extended definition, but at least you get the point. anything that involves taking good care of YOU and being kind to yourself is self-care. That also includes spiritually feeding yourself, changing to a positive environment, decompressing, etc. you get the point. Don’t hurt your head I will explain that part in detail a little later on when we create our new playlist.
So, I’ve had someone say to me before “Don’t you think its selfish that you always seem to care about yourself more than others?” well, the answer is “No.” in a sense self-care is being selfish but not in a negative light. I would say its more about learning to stop giving so much of yourself and time to others and give more of it to oneself. Like honestly it is not worth it. There are times where we need to learn to say “no” to others because we need time to fuel up ourselves and make sure we are making ourselves happy just as much as we are making others. Why do we always go the extra mile for others and we don’t do it for ourselves? Why is that we are so quick to fix our phone screens when it gets cracked, but we can’t even fix ourselves when we are emotionally broken inside. Why is it so easy for YOU to cater to your job and your boss more than to cater to yourself? Why for the love of god do you give a shit more about caring for a person who honestly doesn’t care for you??? WHYYYYYYYY! We all need to stop focusing on making others happy and leaving ourselves in the dark. Make YOURSELF happy first then everybody else can come after. If you don’t make yourself happy, really really happy deep down inside, then who the hell will? We aren’t born with self-care but we can learn it, and it is never too late to start. Don’t mind what social media has to say because most of the time those “persons” who claim to be living their “best life” are just as stressed and depressed when they put down that camera. If any person tries to tell you-you are being selfish for putting yourself first simply say: “No, I just care for myself more.”And if they try to run on with you tell them to “kiss your ass” and politely smile and walk off.
So I know you guys are wondering what the difference between self-care and self-love is… well, to be honest, it is common to mix them up. This is because there is a fine line between the two. So I will try to make this as simple as possible. Self-love to me is more about acceptance of oneself and learning to appreciate who YOU are as a human being. Realizing that you aren’t perfect and that you have flaws, but you learn to love every part of you. Self-love starts with YOU and don’t apologize for being YOU either. On the other hand, Self-care leans more to the 360 of you, meaning your mentality, spirituality, emotions, getting Intune with your physical self. It's about putting yourself first before anything. Self-care is about having a healthy relationship with yourself. It's about learning to shut down for a while and focus on YOU. Self- love, and self-care go hand and hand together because caring for yourself is to love yourself. Don’t you agree? I hope you guys get the point of the difference between the two. I tried my best for you guys to understand the difference. Gosh… I mean…ughhh. Like it’s so hard sometimes for me to write about these things because like I said earlier I’m still learning about self-care and creating a playlist in my life for it. *inhale and exhale slowly *This is so off-topic, but I really appreciate you all and salute you all who are on this journey like me to self-love and self-care. I’ve made a vow to myself that 2019 is the year for me to be selfish even if I come across as a mean person at times. Moving on!!!! I will end on this note;
“Don’t be quick to charge your phone and fix your crack screen but can’t refuel and recharge yourself when you need too””
You are more important than material things. It’s Self-care!! Remember that. Smile and hug yourself. I love you silly !!!!
“The Most powerful relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself.”
