A Letter from Me to You: NO in November
Odette
Dear You,
It's time you stop saying "yes" to things you really want to say "no," too. We are now in November, and the first two letters of the month spell out "NO," which means we are going to start saying "NO." You are still in the autumn season, which means changes are currently happening for some of you all who decided to make a change for the "Fall Season."
With those changes, there will be times where you must be selfish and just learn to say “no” to things you really don't want to do. I get that you may not want to say no because you are afraid of what the outcome may be, but sometimes that's the risk you must be willing to take. There is nothing wrong with saying “no” to people or situations regardless of who or what it is. Just be mindful of how you say it. I am writing this letter to you to remind you that in your changing season, one thing that you will encounter is balancing between saying yes and no.
I understand you may find it difficult to say "no," but you have to stand up for yourself. Why say yes to something you don't really care for? Why do you feel as though it is essential to please everyone with a "yes," and then you feel stressed and resentful about it later? Yes, people will feel some type of way; some may feel angry, hurt, or you may even come off as disrespectful, but that is their problem, not yours. You may feel some type of burden, but you must learn to have that self-confidence and self-value in yourself. Don't get me wrong I have a problem with not saying “no” all the time. My reason is that I put other people's emotions before mine, and I hate to disappoint. So see, you aren't alone with this struggle.
You must remember to never depend on others' opinions of you, or you will never be happy. Your view of yourself is what matters most, and if they do have a problem, they can go kick rocks! Just think to yourself is saying "yes" really worth it; because, in most cases, we end up doubting ourselves and realizing we just should have said "no" to begin with. Usually, that leads to the road of many different things.
With that being said… maybe it's time you learn to say no and just move on; after all, it is NO-vember. This is the last month for you to fall into autumn, so make it count. Be selfish, have no regrets, and continue to make the necessary changes you want to see in your life. Winter is coming, so get ready!!
Love,
Azalea
